IM A SURVIVOR NARSASISTIC ABUSE

The true reason we are afraid to question the narcissist By: LIFE COACH FRANKIE MARTINEZ JULY 12TH 2023 We do this because we know they will not respond well. We know if we ask, they would punish us or leave us, so we avoid the experience by keeping our mouths shut. When it comes to things of the heart, however, such as adultery, the real reason we never would like to know is that we already know. The answer is that they are deceiving us. (And we are aware of this.) This is why the practice of asking questions is so important to our growth. Knowing is the one talent you have to enhance as a victim/survivor of narcissistic abuse. learn to understand the signs, and get your own closure Most narcissists will never offer you the closure of the truth; that is up to you. Especially if the problem is one of cheating. Narcissists will cheat on you because they have no other choice. (I'll touch on this in a subsequent essay). As a result, in order to gain the wisdom you want, you will need ...

Don't be taken by surprise! Learn how to identify a narcissist from a distance. Covert narcissists are difficult to spot at first. They put up a show of humility and goodness, yet their behaviors contradict this image. It's important to recognize the warning signals of a covert narcissist so that you can protect yourself and others you care about. They put up a show of humility and goodness, yet their behaviors contradict this image. They are manipulative and use emotional manipulation to achieve their goals. They attempt to gain control over their partners, friends, and family members. They are too sensitive to criticism and, when confronted, become defensive or aggressive. They minimize or disregard others' accomplishments and successes. They are envious and jealous of others, including those close to them. They have a sense of entitlement and think they are better than others. They are emotionally remote and difficult to connect with on a deeper level. They c...

One of the worst times in my life occurred two years and two months ago. I became aware that I was experiencing emotional abuse when I found myself in the devaluation phase of a relationship with a narcissist.  If you're not familiar with the word "devaluation," it refers to the phase of a relationship when a narcissist starts acting abusively and taking advantage of you without warning. You witness the person you love verbally and physically mistreating you as they lose interest in you. It's the phase that follows the "love bombing" phase, in which they show you plenty of affection and attention and convince you that you two are meant to be together. Typically, the discarding phase follows the devaluation phase, during which they mysteriously leave you. I wasn't aware of what was happening at the time, but I could sense something wasn't right. Something about that relationship was clearly fake, my gut told me. She frequently gave me the ...

  By: Life Coach, Frankie Martinez, July, 01, 2023, Many of the articles I read when I initially started researching cluster b personality disorders to understand the trauma I had as a child and as an adult focused on victimization: "If only you had never interacted with a narcissist in the first place, you would not have been harmed. The narcissist would not have chosen you as a target if you had simply learnt your boundaries. In order to shift blame away from abusers through this narrative, many so-called experts—or even psychologists—are narcissists themselves. Victim blaming is a narcissist abuse method. They downplay (gaslight) the fact that narcissists frequently mistreat helpless people without their consent. The narcissist may have raped you or may have even been your parent. They might even be your boss or a politician. They mistreat children, people with mental disabilities, and animals. In their unrelenting quest for dominance and grandiosity, they oppress entire commun...

Covert shy narcissists enjoy playing foolish. They are able to undermine your barriers, come near to you, then pounce, tear you to shreds, and have you for dinner by seeming naive, innocent, cute, weak, victimized, vulnerable, and bashful. They are shapeshifters in the most refined and subtle manner. To catch their prey, all predators have a natural ability to hypnotize them. They disguise themselves artistically and use camouflage to seem undetectable in order to maintain the element of surprise and control over the murder. Malignant narcissists are predators who hunt prey. Being a predator places the narcissist in the category of psychopathology, and interestingly, all psychopaths are narcissists. The narcissist mortally wounds others, then renders us formless and shapeless. They dissolve us in acid and eat us. We lie there in a disoriented and confused immobility, unable to leave as the narcissist devours us and tears at our flesh with an insatiable desire. You never see...

Narcissism is a personality disorder that is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. This disorder can manifest itself in a variety of ways, ranging from mild to severe, and can affect both men and women. A narcissistic person is someone who is obsessed with themselves and their own needs, often at the expense of others. They crave attention and admiration from others, and they will often go to great lengths to get it. Narcissists are often charming and charismatic, and they are skilled at manipulating others to get what they want. Despite their confidence and self-assuredness, narcissists often have deep-seated feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. They may project a false image of themselves to others in an attempt to feel more powerful and in control. They may also be extremely sensitive to criticism or perceived slights, which can result in outbursts of rage or even violence. Narcissistic pers...