The true reason we are afraid to question the narcissist

The true reason we are afraid to question the narcissist
By: LIFE COACH FRANKIE MARTINEZ JULY 12TH 2023

We do this because we know they will not respond well. We know if we ask, they would punish us or leave us, so we avoid the experience by keeping our mouths shut.

When it comes to things of the heart, however, such as adultery, the real reason we never would like to know is that we already know.

The answer is that they are deceiving us.

(And we are aware of this.)

This is why the practice of asking questions is so important to our growth. Knowing is the one talent you have to enhance as a victim/survivor of narcissistic abuse.

learn to understand the signs, and

get your own closure

Most narcissists will never offer you the closure of the truth; that is up to you. Especially if the problem is one of cheating. Narcissists will cheat on you because they have no other choice.

(I'll touch on this in a subsequent essay).

As a result, in order to gain the wisdom you want, you will need to experience them more than once in order for repetition to aid you in recognizing their patterns. Although it appears to be a curse, it is actually a benefit.

Your experience will teach you not just to see danger indicators early, but also to believe what you see (and feel) the first time. You won't require any proof.

Your instincts will suffice.


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